Design & Styling by Nancy Lane Interiors | Photo by Madeline Harper Photography
To me, the word "home" is as much a feeling as a building you live in.
I've known the importance of both since I was a little girl. My childhood home burned to the ground just before I turned eight. My sisters and I watched my parents struggle for more than two years to build a new house for us, and together in the years that followed, the seven of us made it home.
Over the two-plus years it took my parents to rebuild, we all chipped in to do what we could. My dad was the contractor and project manager for the project, and I remember my sisters and I hauling bricks for the construction crew and doing whatever my parents thought we were capable of, even at our young ages. My dad would bring home old furniture he'd found, and we would rehab things to use as best we could. My sisters and I became experts in painting rooms, furniture, you name it, and anything interior related plus yard work (no wonder I now love to weed and mow grass).
The list goes on and on. I'm sure the whole experience led me to loving interior design, home building, and gardening. It definitely taught me to look for the positive side of even the most tragic of life's experiences.
This may sound crazy coming from someone whose livelihood depends on being employed by clients who want and need help with interior design, but I feel the need to share what I feel is the real secret of home.
Home is an expression of your soul on the outside. It is like you - unique in every way. There's no duplicate of it somewhere, even in cookie-cutter developments one might find in the 'burbs, where the same few house plans are used and reused.
Never feel ashamed of the things you love, and be unapologetic about what you want to display and see on a daily basis within the sanctuary of your own home. What you love is part of what makes you uniquely you! Your home should be a reflection of that.
I've been around other designers when they've told their clients that they can't use a cherished piece in their own home. I won't lie - there are certainly times where I've been introduced to a certain collectible and wondered, "How in the world am I going to make that work?" I always give an honest opinion to clients when they ask about using a specific piece. I give a gentle nudging about moving it elsewhere in their home where it might make better sense. Bottom line: there are always creative ways to display things or better ways to place items. All this to say that I will never, ever tell a client that something they love should not or cannot be used in their home. I will always find a way. Always.
Design & Styling by Nancy Lane Interiors | Photo by Ellen Renee Photography
Many moons ago, a designer I knew and revered at the time stopped by my home. She made a remark about how there were too many pictures displayed for her taste. I refrained from telling her how we lost everything in the house fire...every antique, every stick of furniture - every. single, thing, including every picture we had of our family up until the day of the fire. I let her comment go without response, but I have never forgotten it. Instead, I've used it to inform how I treat my clients, how I listen to their stories about pieces they want to incorporate into their home's design - with duty and respect.
When we lost our home, we were able to replace most things with time. Family, friends, and complete and total strangers rallied around us to provide even the most basic of needs in the immediate aftermath. I remember to this day how my aunt's church threw a birthday party for me the week after the fire. I still have the Star Wars wrist watch that someone donated as a birthday gift. I'm not sure why I've kept it, but I have, and it reminds me of a stranger's kindness. It no longer tells time, but it holds a memory...a positive one made from a negative.
While I know only too well that most things can be replaced, like a house, furniture, and clothing, I know better than most that things like antiques passed down through the years, certain collectibles, and most importantly, old family photos (remember this was WAYYY before iPhones and back up in the cloud)...those things entwined with memories from days gone by often are unique and irreplaceable.
On the flip side of the coin, surround yourself with things you love for sure, but also know they're just...things.
Remember the people in your life, the ones you share your life with on a daily basis, truly make a home what it is, and the "things" you enjoy are icing on the cake. Focusing on creating a home that is an expression of your soul on the outside can guide you to the perfect space that is unapologetically you, unmistakably home. If you need help doing just that, feel free to reach out to us here.
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